The 5 Love Languages

I’ve taken the love language quiz before but I decided to take it 2 more times and see how my results compared. I figured why not with Valentine’s Day right around the corner. My love language is primarily made up of Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, and Words of Affirmation. Typically when you take this test you are one category, but to be honest, I took the test twice and my results were different so I think it also depends on your mood and mindset that day.

I think it is important to figure out your love language. Once you know your love language and that of your significant other, you can use that to strengthen your relationship. “Everyone gives and receives love differently […]” (Gary Chapmin).

For some, hearing “I love you” may not be enough and instead you feel more love when your significant other cooks you dinner or does the laundry. For others, small (or large) gifts may show their affection. The same applies to words, physical touch, and quality time.

I actually sent the quiz to my husband to take. So I will see what he gets and then having that knowledge will be beneficial to our relationship.

One important thing I have learned over the years is the importance of spending time together. Going on date nights or watching a movie together at night. Sometimes it’s hard to get alone time when you have kids, especially now with the pandemic.. Scott and I used to go on date nights more often when the weather was warmer because we felt comfortable eating outdoors, especially when max capacity was at 25% or less and we could easily social distance ourself from others. Now that the weather has gotten colder it is has become a little harder as I do not want to eat indoors at this time.

Now is the time to get creative and here are some ideas for having your own date night at home after the kids go to bed (or even ask a family member, pod friend or anyone you feel comfortable with to watch your kids for a few hours).

1. Game Night

   Scott and I have started to play card games like Qwixx, Avocado Smash (this one my oldest daughter likes too), and Sushi Go. Qwixx is probably our favorite. I also want to try Throw Throw Burrito because that looks hilarious and it’s nice to laugh.

2. Cooking or Bake Off Competition (or any competition)

   The other night my husband had a clever idea to have an ice cream sundae making competition for our kids and via FaceTime we had my mom vote who won. Naturally both girls won on different levels of creativity but it was such a clever idea and the same concept could be applied to date night.

3. DIY Project

   Scott likes to work on projects. I usually just send him a Pinterest idea or a photo and he goes from there. To make it more of a couples activity you could work on it together. Whether it is a room remodel or a smaller project like building something for your kids. Even if it is just you picking out the designs and your significant other installing them while you supervise and keep them company that can definitely be some quality time.

4. Wine Tasting/Beer Tasting/Mixed Beverage (or any beverage)

   Any sort of beverage tasting where you try something new together is fun. If you are a wine connoisseur you could even get one of these to remove the labels and save it in a memory book.

5. Play Video Games

   Scott and I used to play video games way back in the day but haven’t for years. However, we recently got Just Dance for our girls and have played it with friends too. It has been a lot of fun and I can’t wait for us to have a “friendly competition”

6. Paint Together

   I’ll just leave this link here for the Love is Art Kit.

7. Challenging Puzzle

   Before Scott and I had kids we would occasionally do puzzles together. I remember this one puzzle we had was of the Eagles Stadium and we were almost finished but one piece was missing. It was probably a 1000 piece puzzle that we spent forever working on. 2 weeks later we found it in the cracks of a chair. Now that we have kids doing a puzzle like this may be a little more challenging because I can tell you that my youngest will most definitely come over and take it apart. However, I did find that they sell puzzle rolls so that you can roll up your puzzle after each time you work on it. I think the next time we do a puzzle I want to glue it together and frame it. I’ve seen it done and I think it is such a fun idea.

8. Just Talk

   Just have a conversation. It can be about anything and if you need ideas, Our Moments: Couples Edition are conversation starter cards. They even make family and kids versions that look like fun for the dinner table.

9. Bucket List

   Create a bucket list of all the things you want to do together. It can be anything. Places you want to travel, things you want to do and experience, even your goals.

In the spirit of Valentine’s Day. I’ve put together a little collage of chocolate treats. To be honest, that is all I asked for this year. See’s Candies is my absolute favorite and besides just spending time with my husband, I would like to indulge in the best chocolate.

Not Linked Above: See’s Tuxedo Heart, Baked By Melissa Valentine Cupcakes and John and Kiras Bee My Lovebug